Anything we feel we have to fight for, have to desperately hold on to, have to guard... these are the things we have obviously not truly entrusted to God. Struggling is not resting. Fighting is not trusting. We need to be willing to truly trust God with anything that is important to us... and if we truly trust Him with it, well, then He can do with it as He pleases and we will not question Him or complain or be troubled about it. We will cease fighting for it and be willing to take it or leave it as He leads.