We do not need to define ourselves based on our failures or our successes, by our losses or our victories. We need only be defined by Christ, and who we are/where we stand in Him. If we add up the total of our actions they amount to less than nothing. Why do we needlessly stay there? So you messed up. Why are you surprised? You, living and acting in your own strength are going to live an entire life of nothing but mess ups...this is why we so desperately need Jesus... When will we realize how wretched and miserable we are without Him? Let past failures drive you to Him. Not to despair or hopelessness.